Hi..This is Gayathri..Having looked for voice forever now that I have found one through this blog! I would like to write about people. Yea you read that right,it is PEOPLE. Don’t know what it is for others,but for me FELLOW PEOPLE have always been a fascination. Stay tuned to read about interesting ,mundane ,bizarre and most normal people that I have encountered ,encountering and will ENCOUNTER!!

DRIFTED APART AND DRAGGED NEAR ONES

People change and forget to tell each other

Lillian Hellman

Many a times when we reach out to make forever friends as adults it never works 9 in 10 times.Ever wondered why? With an age of 20 and above,we all do develop strong personality traits. Traits of reluctant to accept non-compatible ones,hard on working ego out,more than these the thick sense of being “You” the more never lets anyone make any genuine friends from then.This way,helpless, we all start staying with our comfortable ones and never do break our bubble for emotional entry.

This lets anyone of any kind to cling and do surface talk with all they meet at new places.With each different place we tend to make new friends all the time but never any deep ones ,strong ones ,mostly never any FOREVER ONES!

I happened to meet a nice friend at a new place.Being the typical newbies we were doing everything together.The cozy feeling of having a friend to be around with for anything existed only till we both found the relatable cum totally compatible ones of our kind.That’s the point when we started drifting,unlike dramatic or with full of words,it happened like it had no synopsis at all.She hanged out with her kind and I started being on my own.Never we asked why?what? or anything. Adulting for sure reduces dependency ,never knew it would even bring uncalled for ‘matter-of-fact’ behaviour.

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It at first does seem like it is forever,but with time and change of needs,even the most well started friendship/relationship starts to grow far with no clues.

I was always making new friends and then loosing them

Sebastian Lelio

With time, place changes and friends change too. Now that I m in a different place there are other different friends that I have made and I m still making more too! Every time when someone waves a first smile or a first ‘Hi’ ,somewhere in my mind(Yea not in heart) I only think ‘Here is my another friend of this place(yea for that place alone)’

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So here comes the real question ,Whom can anyone count in when they really need a solace ? All those whom we had in our lives from our littlest of age or at our early teens. Time comes when we drag them near even more despite they being far,not been in vision for months or in actual daily routine.

It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Emerson says only ‘stupid’ while I would say you can be anything with them! Those people whom we remember first when it comes to sharing anything good or bad with no fear of consequences or judgement will do get dragged closer where ever you go from now on.

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This unusual yet fascinating psychology behind friends and being a ‘keeper’ of them still makes me want to pour more insights and views. But I would like to give way to your thoughts post pondering over this. Happy making friends and keeping them!

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